Things I want to stop saying (part 3): Is it God’s will?

iceiceA long time ago (in a galaxy far, far away) a friend of mine fell in love. In fact not only did he fall in love but the girl he was in love with also fell in love with him. We would all sit around awkwardly in any group they were in as they gazed at each other half-longingly, half-bashfully. From everyone else’s perspective it was a done deal; they were going to end up dating very soon. By Christmas nothing had happened. By Spring the tension was killing us. By Summer, she had moved away and the romantic comedy that was playing out in front of us ended as nobody expected.

I spoke with my friend and asked him why they had never gotten together. His reply was a little perplexing,

“We loved each other that is for sure. She is the girl of my dreams (we were teenagers and this kind of language was mandatory) but God didn’t ever tell me it was okay?”
“Did He say it wasn’t okay?”
“No but it wasn’t worth taking the risk of being disobedient.”

There was something admirable in his desire to please God. There was something wonderful about meeting someone who sought God in the details of his life. There was also something extremely sad. This friend of mine had met someone wonderful, someone whom he was happy around, someone in who’s company he was himself and he was unable to enjoy it because somewhere along the line a fear of him making a decision that was not ‘God’s will’ had frozen him on the spot. In retrospect this was happening all across his life. He wasn’t making any decisions, he was treading water in the middle of a vast ocean of blessing. Stuck in the one place when there was a whole world to explore.

Finding God’s will for your life is as popular as ever. Go to a christian conference and every prophetic speaker runs the most packed out seminar. Everyone is waiting for that intervention moment from Heaven that changes the course of their life forever. It seems though that for many God’s will is elusive. They leave disappointed that the prophetic-national-lottery-esque finger didn’t point at them.

I’ve sat with countless people who have told me they are waiting for God’s great plan to be revealed to them. They are waiting for their moment to shine. They know they are destined for greatness but they don’t know how or in what. Until then they are just waiting around.

I do believe in God’s will. I do believe that at times God intervenes into our patterns and rhythms and takes us on a different course. There are countless times in Scripture where this is modelled for us clearly; Abraham, David, Gideon, Paul. For sure it is a real thing but are we in Continue reading “Things I want to stop saying (part 3): Is it God’s will?”

Life is too short to waste on self-pity.

imageOne of the people who has influenced my life the most is Bill Badal. 14 years ago I spent 6 months living in his basement and interning in the youth ministry he was leading. Bill is one of the most gifted leaders of people I have ever met. People are drawn to him and he takes time to know them and invest in their lives.  Continue reading “Life is too short to waste on self-pity.”

Land of Our Sojourn

bread“I will sing my song, in the land of my sojourn.” Rich Mullins.

Rich Mullins was a Christian singer-songwriter through the 80’s and 90’s. Rich died in a car accident in 1997 but left a great legacy behind in the lives of a lot of people. Google him; you will not be disappointed. I rarely like Christian music but I like Rich’s music because it is a mix of real life pain and struggle with a silver lining of faith. Rich, like many of us wrestled with his faith in a heaven-dwelling God when faced with the pain of a life on Earth but he never gave up on the hope that he had found. He wrote a song called Land of my Sojourn. It is about life in America as one who believed his real home was in another place, a place where all is good and there is no longer any pain; an eternity with Jesus. Until then he would sojourn in the USA. Continue reading “Land of Our Sojourn”